From philosophers, to wellness gurus, life-style coaches to teachers, through to religious figures & even our own family – many people have suggestions & rules that they either try to enforce on us, or guilty us into adhering to. But when you think about it, life more often than not, is pretty black and white.
David, the blogger & founder of Raptitude.com fame has created this quite brilliant list of some of the most important and of unspoken realities of every day life.
We’ve selected 50 of his best insights below. Do let us know if you agree or if you think we should add some more!
1. You can’t change other people, and it’s rude to try.
2. It is a hundred times more difficult to burn calories than to refrain from consuming them in the first place.
3. If you’re talking to someone you don’t know well, you may be talking to someone who knows way more about whatever you’re talking about than you do.
4. The cheapest and most expensive models are usually both bad deals.
5. Everyone likes somebody who gets to the point quickly.
6. Bad moods will come and go your whole life, and trying to force them away makes them run deeper and last longer.
7. Children are remarkably honest creatures until we teach them not to be.
8. If everyone in the TV show you’re watching is good-looking, it’s not worth watching.
9. Yelling always makes things worse.
10. Whenever you’re worried about what others will think of you, you’re really just worried about what you’ll think of you.
11. Every problem you have is your responsibility, regardless of who caused it.
12. You never have to deal with more than one moment at a time.
13. If you never doubt your beliefs, then you’re wrong a lot.
14. Managing one’s wants is the most powerful skill a person can learn.
15. Nobody has it all figured out.
16. Cynicism is far too easy to be useful.
17. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours.
18. Whenever you hate something, it hates you back: people, situations and inanimate objects alike.
19. Ralph Waldo Emerson’s works alone can teach you everything you need to know about living with grace and happiness.
20. People embellish everything, as a rule.
21. Anger reveals weakness of character, violence even more so.
22. Humans cannot destroy the planet, but we can destroy its capacity to keep us alive. And we are.
23. When people are uncomfortable with the present moment, they fidget with their hands or their minds. Watch and see.
24. Those who complain the most, accomplish the least.
25. Putting something off makes it instantly harder and scarier.
26. “Gut feeling” is not just a euphemism. Tension in the abdomen speaks volumes about how you truly feel about something, beyond all arguments and rationales.
27. Posture and dress change profoundly how you feel about yourself and how others feel about you, like it or not.
28. Everyone thinks they’re an above average driver.
29. The urge to punish others has much more to do with venting frustration than correcting behaviour.
30. By default, people think far too much.
31. If anything is worth splurging on, it’s a high-quality mattress. You’ll spend a third of your life using it.
32. Try as we might to be otherwise, we are all hypocrites.
33. Kids will usually understand exactly what you mean if you keep it to one or two short sentences.
34. Stuff that’s on sale usually has an annoying downside.
35. Casual swearing makes people sound dumb.
36. Words are immensely powerful. One cruel remark can wound someone for life.
37. The secret ingredient is usually butter, in obscene amounts.
38. Problems, when they arise, are rarely as painful as the experience of fearing them.
39. Nothing — ever — happens exactly like you pictured it.
40. You can’t hide a bad mood from people who know you well, but you can always be polite.
41. Sometimes you have to remove certain people from your life, even if they’re family.
42. Anyone can be calmed in an instant by looking at the ocean or the stars.
43. There is no point finishing a book you aren’t enjoying. Life is too short for that. Swallow your pride and put it down for good, unfinished.
44. There is no correlation between the price of a brand of batteries and how long they last.
45. Breaking new ground only takes a small amount more effort than you’re used to giving.
46. Life is a solo trip, but you’ll have lots of visitors. Some of them are long-term, most aren’t.
47. One of the best things you can do for your kids is take them on road trips. I’m not a parent, but I was a kid once.
48. The fewer possessions you have, the more they do for you.
49. Wishing things were different is a great way to torture yourself.
50. The ability to be happy is nothing other than the ability to come to terms with how things change.